Let’s keep this straight. We’ll start by accepting the fact that every living being in this world wants to be happy. It only differs by the path which we chose to attain it.
Trust me, “The search for Happiness” isn’t started recently, people have started the never-ending race long ago than we can imagine. Elites in many groups have found interesting answers. Yes, we already have the answer.
Please have in mind that this isn’t just about me, we have to join our hands together to understand it.
Now, try to remember some of the occasions when you were happy? Take your time, though it may be tempting to read further.
Some of the answers would be, watching movies, reading fantasy books, meeting a favorite person, etc. You may and should ask, how can all be related? In truth, it was. The relation is abstract.
Let’s pick up some of the happy occasions and try to investigate it. As a notice, we’re going to see easy to understand to hard ones.
Beautiful music makes us happy
Music is well said to be the speech of angels.
~ Thomas Carlyle
People love to hear and play good music. What makes them love to do that? It’ll look senseless for another creature to see how humans react to some sort of sound waves. But, only the artists know how hard it is to practice and focus themselves to create a specific sound that won’t hurt the listener and to be in a flow. On the other hand, the listener should do a lot of work in their mind to feel the depth and flow of a song by filtering the unwanted thoughts, sounds, etc. It’s a beautiful process where both the musician and the audience were completely focused and engaged in a process to enter into a state of happiness.
We’re happy to watch Movies
Every great film should seem new every time you see it.
~ Roger Ebert
Can you remember the last fantastic movie that you’ve watched? What made you like it? More probably, it may have an interesting storyline, awesome twists-and-turns, jaw-dropping stunts, animations, etc. The more you work on your focus to understand the movie, the more you love it.
The same goes for playing games. Because a game is just a movie that allows our intervention.
And of course, the more it looks new to you the more it’ll be engaging. The more it keeps you engaged the more you’re focused.
Helping others makes us happy
We always tend to lose something when we help others, so, why do we do it then? It has an interesting background, it’s backed by happiness.
Well, how losing something can make you happy?
Because we intentionally forget that we’re losing something. Can you donate something when you think it’s very important to you? no, I believe.
I’ll get to the point. When we help others, we care about them and not us. We don’t think how we’re going to be affected by the act instead we’re focused on them who get our help and how they are going to be uplifted. It’s the only reason for our willingness to help. The same who runs to save a person from suicide attempts it when they’re in a position to do so. Because one does feel happy only when they’re focused on something/someone other than themselves. We’ll dig this deeper at the conclusion.
Babies make us happy
It’s a different story here. Babies don’t do stunts or play the piano. We don’t give something to a sleeping baby or get anything from it, but, it’s happy to see a baby, why is that?
Let’s look at it from a different perspective. We’ve just admitted that we feel happy to see a baby, no matter the familiarity. But do we have the same feeling towards an adult? Well, it’s just the same baby with increased size and numbers, isn’t it?
There’s a reason for us to feel that way. Fear. Yeah, we never feared a baby that it would lie to us (or) try to invade our personal space (or) fake us into believing something. As soon as we face an adult, we try our best to shield us from what was said before. We were conditioned to face society with this shield. And it was heavy. We feel relieved when we drop it. That’s the reason why we feel happy around people that we trust and of course babies.
We have to work our way to find the actual cause for happiness, and how the happy occasions are related.
From the above points that we’ve discussed, when paying intense focus where we tend to forget our surroundings, thoughts, so to say ourselves, we get happiness. Also, when we’re relieved from something that we don’t like, we consider it as happy.
It should be the reason why when we’re completely into research or in a deep meditative state or playing a game, we forget to eat, lose track of time, but feel content and happy.
And I must admit that now I feel satisfied and happy as I’ve immersed myself writing this.
I’ll just stop here by saying what makes us feel happy and whatnot. And leave it to your hands to find the why.
Why do we feel happy when we forget ourselves?
Thank you for reading! I hope you’ll join me in the research about Happiness. Feel free to share your thoughts, I’ll be more than happy to read and reply to you. Please press that clap button if you’ve felt that my writing helped you in some way.